No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

– Hebrews 12:11

I bet most of us can relate to seeing someone else try and negotiate with their unruly child. It’s painful no matter the outcome. There’s the screaming, crying, pleading, whining, faking, manipulating, relentless pursuit to win the argument, and I’m not even talking about the kid. Finally, concessions are made, ground is given, a deal is struck, and the stand-off ends…for now.

It’s fairly easy to fall into this habit, because discipline is painful. It requires an unyielding commitment to stick it out and follow through more often than not. It’s much easier to just appease the child, thinking that some how they will be reasonable and see why being obedient is the logical and right thing to do. Think about it…does that ever work? Does it ever correct the behavior long term or do you always have to fight the same battles? Most likely, they are getting worse at the same time. The level of frustration rises for both parent and child, until finally, all out war is declared in the teen years.

Another contributing factor is the type and severity of the discipline if it is actually carried out. Much like many of the other solutions offered by today’s supposed experts in relationships, the politically correct versions of discipline are flawed. By nature, discipline must be painful for the child, and typically it’s more effective if it’s carried out quickly and not drug out over days or weeks.  I firmly believe that biblical principles will always stand the test of time. For 50+ years, Americans have applied soft or no discipline to their children. The results are obvious and sad.

In contrast, the results of biblical discipline are “a harvest of righteousness and peace.” Isn’t that what we want as parents: righteousness from our children and peace in our home? Too many Christian parents have fallen prey to the theories of the world, and their families have suffered the consequences.

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